Pretty much every dude we know has expressed at least a little interest in spanking. He might not want to do it (or have it done to him), but he does know its part of the “50 Shades of Grey” thing and women are getting all turned on by it. That means he has questions. Usually, these have at least a little to do with differences between swatting, spanking, and flogging and a little more about each of those. We’ve gone ahead and put together a guideline you can refer to; hopefully, you found this before you found certain sex sites that claim to be the best and are mostly in German. Swatting, spanking, and flogging are all kinds of impact play, which is exactly what it sounds like, but beyond that, the details vary.
Swatting is part of what’s known as “vanilla kink.” This also includes fuzzy handcuffs. Vanilla kink is technically kinky, but just barely so; it’s mainstream. Swatting is just a quick, not very hard smack on the ass. A lot of couples do this playfully, while they’re passing each other in the kitchen, for instance. Plenty of you have participated in this particular variety of kink while thinking it’s just a good way to get your hand on her ass. If you’re interested in spanking, swatting is a good way to start small. Think of it as spanking for beginners. You can get a lot of control behind how hard you swat, and that can carry over to spanking if you decide to step things up a notch, so to speak. It can be arousing and sexy, it can help you find your comfort with kink, and, best of all, and the ass is a well-padded site that can take the swats just fine even if you don’t want to move up. In case, you are single and want to experience this desire of swatting, you can opt for adult sex finder dating sites. Check this list of the top sex finder websites and choose the best fling dating sites to find a suitable partner. Let her know about your desires beforehand or things could get really awkward when you are dating.
Spanking is swatting taken to the next level. It’s more dedicated; there are almost always more than one or two hits involved, and they’re usually harder than swats tend to be. It’s a lot more intense for that reason: there’s more discomfort or pain involved. It’s usually a good idea for spanks to be moved around, rather than centered in one place, since that can build up pain pretty fast and potentially even cause bruising. Even though the ass is a well-padded site, it can take damage; damage is not the best result from spanking, and it’s not exactly sexy, either, though at least it’s easy to find and avoid while it recovers—the skin will be visibly bruised. There are people who go for damage, though, in the form of mild bruising. We’re not sure how those people sit at work the next day, but that’s none of our business. We’ll keep imagining the awkward conversations about how they can’t sit comfortably, though.
Spanking can also be done either by hand or using a paddle. By hand, it’s easier to judge when the person being spanked is near their limit, especially when you’re novices; the spanker’s hand starts hurting enough that they need to stop. If you get into spanking and decide you want to try using an implement, that’s where paddles come in. There’s a huge variety of paddles, from Ping-Pong ones to huge wooden things. It’s best to start small here. A Ping-Pong paddle will sting a lot, but it doesn’t have nearly as much potential to do harm as a solid slab of wood. Unfortunately, you can’t be sure if the person being spanked will like one kind of paddle based on if they like another; they might hate the way a Ping-Pong paddle stings, but they end up loving the thud of a quarter-inch thick piece of maple board. Your best option here is a site with a flexible return policy; you can also find sex stores that will let you try out a paddle (over clothes, of course), which is a good thing to take advantage of if you have the opportunity.
You can also use things like wooden spoons and spatulas as paddles. They’re everyday objects being, well, perverted to a sexual, specifically kinky, use. You might end up buying two of every good kitchen stirring or flipping implement if these do it for you.
If you use a wooden paddle (including wooden spoon), check it every so often for splits, cracks, and splinters. You do not want to drive a splinter into your lady’s ass (or have one driven into yours), or so we assume, and imagine the level of bad if half the paddle kept going when it impacted while the other half only went partway against the person’s ass before it broke off and dropped. For one thing, you’d have a sharp edge and splinters to worry about.
Flogging is not to be tried on a whim if you don’t know what you’re doing. Flogging can do actual damage; it can break the skin. If you decide you want to try flogging, look for a demonstration in your area. If there won’t be one, look up videos (there are even some on YouTube; you don’t have to resort to porn sites), watch them carefully, and then practice on pillows.
The thing with floggers is the tails can wrap around and cut into the skin. They can also break the skin if they have beads tied into the tails. It takes skill aiming one and using the right amount of pressure.
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A flog is a short-handled whip with many tails that are about eighteen inches to two feet long. They can be made of a variety of things from rubber to kangaroo leather to rabbit fur to feathers. Fur and feather floggers are for sensation play—something soft and light hitting the recipient or being dragged over their body. They’re not used in impact play. Leather, suede, and rubber floggers are all for impact play. Rubber ones sting a lot, like getting hit with a rubber band. Leather and suede also sting, but more heavily. The leather can be from a variety of animals, or it might even be vegan leather. Rubber floggers are unlikely to do damage even if they do wrap; the tails are fully round, and rubber. Leather and suede, on the other hand, can both wrap around hips or shoulders and cut into the areas of thin flesh over bone; they can even cut into not-so-thin flesh if the tails are moving fast enough.
A flogger might have beads added to increase the impact. These beads can be plastic or metal, and you could probably get custom-made leather with glass beads, but we wouldn’t recommend it. The beads can easily leave bruises; if they’re not fully sanded down or have any edges at all, they can break skin.
A flogger may be used on the ass, thighs, or upper back and shoulder area. It should never be used in the mid-back area. One word: kidneys. Yeah, that’s what we thought, tough guy. Be nice to your kidneys. They’re letting you drink enough that you can bring up kinky ideas to try out without being broken up with.